White displays of charity make me sick. Then they make me want to shit.
Send 5 cents to an African child and receive their photograph (because suffering black bodies must always be framed and catalogued for the white gaze)
No one ever talks about black peoples hospitality or our culture of compassion that has been a staple of ours for centuries.
When children are abandoned or neglected in the black community we used to take those children an raise them as part of the family. Children were told from now on this yo cousin or sister or brother and u better treat them as such. We didn’t need foster care systems or adoption agencies to tell us when a child was in need we just responded.
Do u know how many play cousins I have? Who aren’t actually related to me but show up at all my family gatherings and call themselves by my family’s last name?
I don’t know what that’s called but I have seen this happen in Black families so many times it has to be cultural.
The euro version of this however is dependant on this idea of being a savior or worshipped as one. It’s not genuine and it purposely creates distance between the charity and the charitable.
Don’t mind me but alot of white people in NYC wear tom shoes thinking they are giving to this mythical Africa where children walk barefoot when all their doing is exploiting and making a company profit from the pain of African children.
I think it goes back to White Man’s Burden.
this is what i always say about dominicans too. no need for adoption and foster care like that. someone will take care of that kid. even if they are poor and got 7 of their own, theyll eat a lil less and add a “child”. we take care of each other in a way white folk cant even fathom.
This… I can’t be begin to tell you how many family members I have who aren’t related to me by blood… My mom has helped to raise countless cousins… My family is huge and we don’t believe in foster care.. If you can take them in take them in… If you can’t take them in… TAKE THEM IN… I have a cousin now that’s raising our cousins children by herself… Some of my aunts children were raised by other aunts.. My grandmother raised 10 of her grandchildren without any help from their parents.. That’s just what we do..
blackfoxx and i were just talking about how we both had periods, years long, where we were rasied by a grandmother or aunt or something of the sort.
because what we do is, if mama gotta go finish school or some shit or move elsewhere to get her life together, granny will take up the childrearing, (or sis or cousin, or a good friend thats practically family coz they were raised in the same household too…somebody), til she gets on her feet and can resume duties. but the point is we dont see delegating the childrearing as odd, coz we know good and well it takes a village and thats how we survive and thrive. my family is extended as fuck. i got cousins for ever and ever and they got kids and their mommas are my moms cousins but they grew up together so we call am aunties anyway and….the point is
taking care of each other like that, isnt seen as some prize-worthy sacrifice, even though it definitely is. if we gotta get 5 kids in a king size horizontally, we will. we will squish you in. whatever it takes. to us its how you do life right and well. to white people any lil ol act of non-selfishness, and theyre out there on podiums cryin about “look how inspirational i am”.
low ass standards when it comes to interpersonal relations is what they have. individualism vs interdependency.
white people just do life wrong. :|