the bad dominicana

thinkspeakstress:

bad-dominicana:

thinkspeakstress:

bad-dominicana:

comfort zones

safe spaces

meehhhh

sometimes i wonder

if perhaps since safe spaces are practically unheard of for me unless im in solitude or w very select people in very select situations,

comfort zones are as close i could get

and so this urge to tell people they cant have a comfort zone, coz its *wrong*

bothers me

perhaps im conflating

or its just that

i dont ever get that far

and it feels like im being told i cant have anything safe or comfortable at all

and i dont like it

at all

some folks basically can afford to not have a comfort zone coz they have safe spaces

and so you can preach to them about that

but for folks w/o safe spaces and few comfort zones

a simple “expand your knowledge base” may do

leave me to my comfort

PLEASE

i dont get much of it

and id like to keep what slivers i get

I was thinking the same thing. I saw you reblog that picture earlier but I guess you deleted it before I could respond. But I was going to say the idea of telling someone they can’t have a comfort zone just skeeves me the fuck out, because it comes off as “You can’t have boundaries.” Why the fuck not? Comfort zones are boundaries, and everyone needs them.

the bolded may also be whats making me feel funny about that. great point.

Especially because as PoC, and especially as WoC, we’re already told to alter our boundaries for everyone. We’re expected not to have them because we can’t have our own comfort. We’re supposed to be worried about everyone elses, and how can we make other people happy if we’re worrying about ourselves by having limits that might in turn limit what we allow others to do to us? I donno, I’m just kind of think speaking right now. I had a lot of thoughts hit me at once about that poster. As a WoC who has gone though a lot of abuse in particular, seeing something telling people not to have a comfort zone? Hell naw. Comfort zones are how I make sure that the shit I went through, I’ll never go through ever again. Idk idk I’m just rambling, but I hope I make sense?

you make perfect sense!