the bad dominicana

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Posted on 28 September, 2014
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Posted on 28 September, 2014
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marawa:

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Posted on 28 September, 2014
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Posted on 28 September, 2014
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nosilenceinthehead:

decoyspider:

nosilenceinthehead:

friso1990:

bad-dominicana:

watching “how to get away with murder” made me realize debate team logic is lawyer logic is public relations logic.
what is right, fair or humane has no bearing. its just what does it look like, how can i spin it, how can i discredit, how can i win no matter wtf justice actually is. its just normalized sociopathy.
and this is what people call intelligent discussion.

I remembered in my first high school we were forced to practice a debate and the subject I was assigned why the hijab should be banned… I couldn’t think of any arguments to support that and I was told that next time I shouldn’t make it about whether or not I was right, but that I should convince others that they were wrong…

On the other hand if you can anticipate the kind of arguments people will come up with you can plan a strategy on how to beat them with their own arguments. Because people from the dark triad will use tactics that have no connection to empathy or common sense, but if you get behind what they mean and uncover their own abusive discussion tactics (for example gaslighting) you can often stop the crap right at the source and shut down your opponents.

But you are right, this kind of “Intelligent discussion” is actually not about what is best but just about how you win the argument and discredit your opponent, and because of that abusive discussion tactics are the norm.

But I don’t think it’s ever framed as, “You can study this to give you insight into how to deal with with gaslighting oppressors/morally bankrupt spindoctors, because they might argue this way,” I don’t think I’ve ever even seen this. It’s framed as, “Here’s How You Argue!” Which is the same thing as “Here’s How You Win!” Regardless of truth, justice, ethics, etc. And this is literally taught in school.

Thus you get people (seems pretty much like white dudes IME) jumping into social justice discussions trying to play “devil’s advocate” because they’re used to thinking of discussion in terms of “how do I win” instead of a possible means of coming to truth or arriving at greater compassion or w/e.

(Also because they’re so completely removed from the subject that it’s literally a thought experiment to them instead of real life.)

(Also because tbh they probably actually think the fucked up “devil’s advocate” thing but want to be able to pretend otherwise if they start to get thrashed)

You are absolutely right about that and I wouldn’t debate that. Privileged people frame this sort of discussion as “intelligent” and “the norm” and “how you debate” which is gross from the start. I just wanted to say that learning about abusive tactics in these “discussions” has helped me a lot to end them without getting harmed to much and shutting down people in real live where it’s often not possible to ignore them.

That doesn’t of course change the fact that it’s fucked up and we should actually teach children how to not be abusive in arguments and how to spot abusers instead of telling them how to hurt your opponent or detach yourself from the subject enough to count out any sort of ethics, empathy and other necessary discussion basics. And verbal abusiveness is sadly a highly appreciated “skill” in men and they are even more encouraged to verbally abuse people then they are encouraged to abuse them physically, especially if they have a perceived bodily weakness. This is in my eyes the reason why men in the “nerd culture” are often very verbally abusive since they are thaught they have to compensate a lacking bodily strength with their minds.

The whole “devils advocate” thing in my eyes is either a badly hidden ideology (racism, sexism and so on) or power play to step down on people who are already vulnerable because they are easier targets for abuse. In that case, abusive discussion partners just want to humiliate and use their detached emotions as a safety net because they can’t be hurt about the subject since it is not about them. So they can live out abusiveness without the risk of the discussion backfiring at them because they are not “the emotional ones” (which is a discussion tactiv that is coded as womens discussion tactic and therefore devaled).

I just wanted to say sometimes “the more you know” is sadly true, even if it involves understanding assholes, because it’s a way to protect yourself mentally.

Tl;dr: You are absolutely right.

Posted on 28 September, 2014
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i promised myself i wouldn’t reblog anymore of these but this. this is it.

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Posted on 27 September, 2014
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Posted on 27 September, 2014
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Posted on 27 September, 2014
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if youre gonna act like you didnt know or make me regret being open, why would i let you know next time?

Posted on 27 September, 2014

im not interested in waiting to see what “gods divine plan” is for me.
in living out my days in preparation, hoping for a miraculous change instead of living day to day.
the divine plan is always future tense. as if you being here today isnt significant yet.
truth be told i dont think i will be any more significant tomorrow than i am today. and thats to say, i dont believe theres some grand significance to my existence at all. not any more than any other person.
have i maybe touched some peoples lives? i guess. but we all do.
i dont think all this suffering leads to some grand reward. if that was the case all my ancestors wouldve died in glorious comfort and happiness, rather than abject poverty and exploitation.
you could say the great plan is to be here clawing to survive. this isnt any more comforting.
im a dreamer who knows by now that pessimism is more realistic.
i hate thinking of the future. ive hated it for a long time now. granted, its the only way to be remotely prepared for oncoming battles and opportunities. but hope,
hope is not a priority of mine.
and its not cynical if its really how things tend to happen for you.

Posted on 27 September, 2014

blackaudacity:

bad-dominicana:

watching “how to get away with murder” made me realize debate team logic is lawyer logic is public relations logic.
what is right, fair or humane has no bearing. its just what does it look like, how can i spin it, how can i discredit, how can i win no matter wtf justice actually is. its just normalized sociopathy.
and this is what people call intelligent discussion.

Why I gave up on the idea of becoming a lawyer. Precendent is everything in our justice system…and if the precedent is dishonesty, racism and oppression…well.

Posted on 27 September, 2014
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thingsfacebookislike:

vivalaglamourpuss:

bad-dominicana:

watching “how to get away with murder” made me realize debate team logic is lawyer logic is public relations logic.
what is right, fair or humane has no bearing. its just what does it look like, how can i spin it, how can i discredit, how can i win no matter wtf justice actually is. its just normalized sociopathy.
and this is what people call intelligent discussion.

And if you refuse to use their clinical terminology, if you refuse to strip a person of their humanity, if your allow an iota of emotion, of passion, of spirit or empathy into the conversation you’re dismissed. You’re told that this is about logic and not about anything else. Because emotions and the spirit and empathy are not logical apparently. Just you know. Hand wavey shit that confuses the brain.

It’s not even pure logic; it is still designed to play on people’s emotions and ethics. It masquerades as logos while still playing on pathos. The argument is always manipulative and rhetorical rather than substantive. 

Posted on 27 September, 2014
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lareinaana:

friso1990:

bad-dominicana:

watching “how to get away with murder” made me realize debate team logic is lawyer logic is public relations logic.
what is right, fair or humane has no bearing. its just what does it look like, how can i spin it, how can i discredit, how can i win no…

My sister told me that on her first week of school they had a mock “debate.” 10 & 11 year olds. One of the little boys was extremely upset being told to debate *against*environmentalism, which was something very important to him.

This little boy was very emotional about not defending what he loved to call Mother Earth, and did not want to see fellow students even pretending not to care about it. He got an incomplete grade and my sister was wondering why that even happened or how it was “right.” She understood it was an exercise but she also saw why he was so upset being on the “wrong ” team.

I tried explaining how what they had wanted was a pretend exercise, but that it wasn’t much pretending because adults do the same dumb shit, make people fight for things they don’t want to or care about, or even go against their core beliefs. Because he couldn’t “separate” his emotions from the supposedly inconsequential exercise, he had failed step one of the practice.

I told her it was wrong and didn’t make sense but that it was how people expected other adults to operate, even against themselves. That I always hated those exercises and that it’s wrong to make a “debate” about something where one side is clearly and morally wrong and the other is what we should call “logical;” but no, apparently NOT genuinely entertaining bigotry, stupidity and selfishness as plausible realities is cause for immediate failure.

Instead of teaching kids about the environment and how unequivocally necessary it is to take care of it, they sent a little boy home confused, crying and terribly wary of his own school for not taking proper time to explain to him the logic of evil and how court cases really do happen where that evil wins with complete ease based on nothing but that supposed proper, unemotional “”“logic.”“”

Posted on 27 September, 2014
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adaezecharde:

vivalaglamourpuss:

bad-dominicana:

watching “how to get away with murder” made me realize debate team logic is lawyer logic is public relations logic.
what is right, fair or humane has no bearing. its just what does it look like, how can i spin it, how can i discredit, how can i win…

How I’ve been trained to argue. No wonder I’ve had issues with non lawyers. You can’t turn this shit off either.

Posted on 27 September, 2014
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shadow-hikari:

vivalaglamourpuss:

bad-dominicana:

watching “how to get away with murder” made me realize debate team logic is lawyer logic is public relations logic.
what is right, fair or humane has no bearing. its just what does it look like, how can i spin it, how can i discredit, how can i win…

K, but you have to remember when watching movies and shows that it is slightly exaggerated. HTGAWM is terrible as a law show since they violate many rules of court, evidence, and ethics. Now with that being said, you may find plenty of lawyers who subscribe to that kind of mentality since the legal community is self policing, and people who whistle blow get in trouble no matter where they work.

i like how you glossed over the actual point when it wasnt about attorneys and then looped back around to confirm lawyers do it anyway. so pressed to go #wellactually, but got nothin of actual value to add. lol didnt you just enact the same shit i was talkin about?

Posted on 27 September, 2014
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